Sometimes, I Could Do With A Time Out Myself
(This post is also featured on BlogHer.com today.)
I think itís fair to say that as moms, we start out the day with the best intentions.
We want to raise our kids the right way. We want to affirm them, empower them, yet give them the boundaries that theyíll surely come up against in the real world.
So where does losing my cool (a gracious way of putting it!) fit into this picture?
I know when itís coming. So do the kids. Iím getting progressively more irritated. My tone has gone from amiable, to neutral, to edgy. Body language Ė not good. Thoughts Ė not cheerful. Even as I bark out the command, order, or consequence, I realize that itís not being done in a helpful way. Or even in a nice way.
Sometimes, Iím learning, I just need a time out.
There are just times when I canít hang it all together as a mom. I donít want to be reasonable. I donít feel like being sweet. I want the outcome to be exactly as I say, and I want it now. I donít want to explain myself or even be fair. I just want it done because Iím the parent! Yes, I wish for the old days when children were seen and not heard Ė at least for 30 minutes!
Those are the times, Iím learning, when it might be good for me to take a time-out myself.
Because Iím not perfect. I donít always have it together. Sometimes, the gang is just going to have to wait while I gather myself a little better.
Iíll go and take time with my Heavenly father. He listens patiently to my complaints, concerns, and regrets. He reminds me that He is slow to anger with me. Can I extend that grace to my own children in the current situation?
Then I can return to my family, ready to keep trying.
Isnít that what so much of love is about?
The commitment to keep trying, even in the face of all that imperfection.
Dr. Ann is a Christian M.D., wife to a fantastic husband, and mom to a lively gang of three. At The Marriage Checklist Ann blogs about marriage, motherhood, and more! She helps women build better life balance and grow great marriages. Ann blogs on Crosswalk.com, and has been featured on BlogHer.com, Fox news, and Good Morning America. She loves that every day we can choose to take our best steps forward Ė for God, for the people in our lives, and for ourselves.
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